Saturday, 16 August 2008

The Male Agony Aunt

Dear Walter,

I hope you can help me here. The other day, I set off for work leaving my husband in the house watching the TV as usual. I hadn't driven more than a mile down the road when the engine conked out and the car shuddered to a halt. I walked back home to get my husband's help. When I got home I couldn't believe my eyes. He was in our bedroom with the neighbours daughter. I am 32, my husband is 34, and the neighbours daughter is 22. We have been married for ten years.

When I confronted him, he broke down and admitted that they had been having an affair for the past six months. I told him to stop or I would leave him. He was let go from his job six months ago and he says he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. He won't go to counselling and I'm afraid I can't get through to him anymore.

If he leaves me for her I won't be able to look after our two young children and keep up my job, so I will become dependant upon the state, and that is something I am desperate not to do.

I thought we had a good sex life, and although not as frequent as in our younger days, I didn't know he was unhappy. I keep the house clean and tidy , and prepare the meals as he likes them. He always has clean, ironed clothes, and we go out quite regularly to concerts or for a meal. I though our life was perfect.

This other girl concerned is so much younger and more attractive than me, I feel I can't compete with her, and although I keep in shape, having had two children by him, my body is not what it once was. I never realised he felt this way about me though, and I now find myself looking in the mirror and not liking what I see. I am so depressed I may just take a few pills and end it all. I don't know what to do.

Can you please help?

Sincerely, Sheila


Dear Sheila:

A car stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no debris in the fuel line. If it is clear, check the vacuum pipes and hoses on the intake manifold and also check all grounding wires. If none of these approaches solves the problem, it could be that the fuel pump itself is faulty, causing low delivery pressure to the injectors.

I hope this helps,


Sidharth said...

Hi Adullamite,

I have been wanting to ask you. Have you heard of the Adullam Home?

I don't know if its the same Adullam you are in.

Anyway, here's the link to the book. You can read it for free =)


Anonymous said...

Dear Sheila,

Sit your husband down, look him in the eye and tell him straight off that he should be utterly ashamed of himself!

As the man of the house, he should have been helping you with periodic check-ups on the car so that the engine won't stall so badly! Sheesh, what kind of man can be proud of himself knowing the engine in his car is badly maintained?!

Mike Smith said...

You've been sneeking a peek at JNet...!

Da Old Man said...

That truly made me lol. Which is weird because I'm sitting here alone.

1st Lady said...

You'd make a fab Agony Aunt, I think I would too. Infact, between the 2 of us, I think we could solve the worlds problems....